Comments on: The Very Ugly Side of Social Networks http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/ I am the Webmistress. Sun, 20 Jun 2010 05:19:33 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Michelle Greer http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-111 Michelle Greer Sat, 14 Mar 2009 14:50:09 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-111 This is still going on? Geez. All you can do is keep letting people know. People don't want creeps around as much as you do, and people will always look out for you. So keep on keeping on. Your work is too important for people to be messing with your head. <abbr><em>Michelle Greer’s last blog post..<a href="http://www.michellesblog.net/twiter/is-twitter-mainstream-yet-no-and-thats-okay" rel="nofollow">Is Twitter Mainstream Yet? No (and That’s Okay).</a></em></abbr> This is still going on? Geez. All you can do is keep letting people know. People don’t want creeps around as much as you do, and people will always look out for you.

So keep on keeping on. Your work is too important for people to be messing with your head.

Michelle Greer’s last blog post..Is Twitter Mainstream Yet? No (and That’s Okay).

]]> By: Joe Klemmer http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Joe Klemmer Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:04:03 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-110 I've seen this kind of behavior before. The safest way to stop this is to never go online. But that's not a viable option, especially for those of us who work in this industry. I'm not sure what the tipping point is for to much info nor how to keep from tipping it, though. Sorry, it seems I'm no help at all. As a side note, the "trust your instincts" advice is great except for those of us <a href="http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/autism-spectrum-disorders-pervasive-developmental-disorders/index.shtml" title=" Autism Spectrum Disorders (Pervasive Developmental Disorders)">without social awareness abilities</a>. But this problem, for me, is not an online only one. My life in "meat space" is just as vulnerable. I’ve seen this kind of behavior before. The safest way to stop this is to never go online. But that’s not a viable option, especially for those of us who work in this industry. I’m not sure what the tipping point is for to much info nor how to keep from tipping it, though. Sorry, it seems I’m no help at all.

As a side note, the “trust your instincts” advice is great except for those of us without social awareness abilities. But this problem, for me, is not an online only one. My life in “meat space” is just as vulnerable.

]]> By: John Galt http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-109 John Galt Mon, 23 Feb 2009 17:04:13 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-109 Hi Katherine, I was browsing the Linux Journal site and happened across yours. In reference to your experience I wanted to share this website and what happened to Beth, a friend of mine, several years ago. You can find the website and related incident recorded here(http://whoishe.com/PressReleases/DigitalDating10152003.html). Thank you for all your hard work and devotion to our community! Hi Katherine,
I was browsing the Linux Journal site and happened across yours. In reference to your experience I wanted to share this website and what happened to Beth, a friend of mine, several years ago. You can find the website and related incident recorded here(http://whoishe.com/PressReleases/DigitalDating10152003.html). Thank you for all your hard work and devotion to our community!

]]> By: Robb Lewis http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-108 Robb Lewis Fri, 09 Jan 2009 10:01:14 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-108 Wow!, sucks that people out there find pleasure in doing this mind crap. Good thing you are a strong personality and didn't let it make you do something stupid. Thanks for sharing the advice Wow!, sucks that people out there find pleasure in doing this mind crap. Good thing you are a strong personality and didn’t let it make you do something stupid. Thanks for sharing the advice

]]> By: Dr. Ding http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-106 Dr. Ding Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:58:04 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-106 Thanks for the shout-out, sugar! And I'm really, really sorry that something as invasive, inappropriate and just plain wrong as all this happened to you, your husband, and the woman he is maligning here. In my clinical experience, dudes who do stuff like this usually have massive psychological issues that they ignore, choosing instead to distract themselves by inflicting pain on others when their infantile narcissism isn't catered to. Dudes who do stuff like this tend to wind up really miserable later in life, but not before damaging or exploiting pretty much every relationship they form with other human beings. I certainly hope that some sort of cosmic justice prevails and he gets it through his head that this kind of cowardly and ham-handed sociopathy just ain't a good idea. Thanks for the shout-out, sugar! And I’m really, really sorry that something as invasive, inappropriate and just plain wrong as all this happened to you, your husband, and the woman he is maligning here.

In my clinical experience, dudes who do stuff like this usually have massive psychological issues that they ignore, choosing instead to distract themselves by inflicting pain on others when their infantile narcissism isn’t catered to.

Dudes who do stuff like this tend to wind up really miserable later in life, but not before damaging or exploiting pretty much every relationship they form with other human beings. I certainly hope that some sort of cosmic justice prevails and he gets it through his head that this kind of cowardly and ham-handed sociopathy just ain’t a good idea.

]]> By: David Schaffer http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-105 David Schaffer Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:28:18 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-105 Have you seen http://socialstalking.com/ ? It's hard to find the right balance between on-line public, on-line private and real world for anybody -- probably harder for The Webmistress. Have you seen http://socialstalking.com/ ?

It’s hard to find the right balance between on-line public, on-line private and real world for anybody — probably harder for The Webmistress.

]]> By: Imelda http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Imelda Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:03:54 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-104 Yikes!! Yikes!!

]]> By: Tracy http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-103 Tracy Wed, 07 Jan 2009 21:39:00 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-103 Kudos to you for posting this. You're absolutely right in everything that you said and frankly we're not putting up with this crap anymore! WOO HOO! :D Kudos to you for posting this. You’re absolutely right in everything that you said and frankly we’re not putting up with this crap anymore! WOO HOO! :D

]]> By: Carrie http://www.katherinedruckman.com/2009/01/07/the-very-ugly-side-of-social-networks/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Carrie Wed, 07 Jan 2009 21:12:27 +0000 http://www.katherinedruckman.com/?p=1138#comment-102 Great Post Katherine and a much needed one. Great Post Katherine and a much needed one.

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